Now that the holiday season is just about over, many divorced couples may be rethinking their child custody agreement. Sometimes, issues emerge over the holidays that couples didn’t anticipate when drawing up the agreement. Now is the time to determine how to make things less chaotic and stressful, particularly for your children, when the holidays roll around again next year.
If there were any discrepancies in your and your spouse’s understanding of custody and visitation arrangements for the holidays, it’s important to clear those up so that you don’t spend another holiday season fighting over them. This particularly vital if one or both of you have plans to travel with your children over the holidays
It may be a good idea to set up a meeting with your attorney if there are items in the custody and visitation arrangements that need to be changed or clarified. You might want to consider doing that as soon as possible after the first of the year while the holiday battles are fresh in your mind.
If both of you and your attorneys can work out a holiday schedule, including options for travel with your children, next year should go more smoothly. While you’re at it, you may want to revisit your arrangements for other holidays and special occasions like birthdays if you anticipate similar issues.
While you may need to make changes in your custody and visitation agreements for the future, it’s also important to let the past go. If the holidays were less than pleasant because you were battling over where the children would spend them, focus on making next year’s holiday season better. Divorce should be about looking to the future rather than dwelling on the past. This a time to plan new traditions for yourself and your children — not just for the holidays but throughout the year.
Divorced parents learn that custody and visitation agreements need to change as their children grow up. Their needs change, and their wishes need to be considered as they develop friends and relationships. Your Louisiana family law attorney can help look out for you and your rights as you make necessary changes to your child custody agreement.
Source: Huffington Post, “Divorce Confidential: Holiday Preparations” Caroline Choi, Dec. 16, 2014