This seems to be the summer of high-profile break-ups. Actors Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck, country music stars Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton, Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale and longtime couple Reba McEntire and Narvel Blackstock have announced that they are calling it quits.
Most Louisiana couples going through a divorce may feel that they have nothing in common with high-profile celebrity couples going their separate ways. However, many celebrity couples choose to take the high road, present a united front, refrain from saying anything negative about their estranged spouse and request privacy during a difficult time for themselves and their children. These are things that every couple can do within their own circle of work colleagues, neighbors, acquaintances and even friends and family.
Most people don’t have TMZ asking for comments or taking pictures. However, they may feel that others are watching them and trying to get the “dirt” on what happened. Therefore, it can be helpful to take a cue from well-known couples, particularly those with children, who have retained a united front amidst their break-up and refused to say anything negative about their estranged spouse. In fact, some of the public statements issued by these couples can be modified by any couple to deal with those who want the low-down on their break-up.
For example, Lambert and Shelton’s public statement said in part, “This not the future we envisioned, and it is with heavy hearts that we move forward separately.” Meanwhile, Garner and Affleck’s statement said that they “go forward with love and friendship for one another and a commitment to co-parenting our children….”
Other high-profile couples including Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes and Heidi Klum and Seal have split with little if any public comment. Just like them, no divorcing couples are obliged to share personal, often painful, details of a break-up with others if they choose not to.
If you and your estranged spouse are on good enough terms to work out a joint “statement” of sorts that you’ll share with those to whom you aren’t particularly close, you can shut down inquiries and make the situation easier for your children to handle. Your Louisiana family law attorney may be able to provide some guidance to help you deal with nosy or genuinely concerned people who want details that you have no inclination or obligation to share.
Source: Huffington Post, “How to Handle Your Divorce Like a Celebrity,” Honoree Corder, Aug. 05, 2015